Trust issues or How do we fight anxiety?
This is more of a flow of thoughts rather than an informative post, to be honest. For my more than a decade of experience in helping couples become parents there was one thing that I’ve always felt vulnerable to. And that thing is the extreme anxiety of couples who address surrogacy.
The problem is not anxiety itself. It is totally understandable taking into account through how much some couples go before they see no other choice as surrogacy. But the impact it has on the whole process is actually huge.
Anxiety makes all the answers to be questioned and sees each temporary obstacle as a bad sign, it starts controlling the couple’s behaviour and all facts are being interpreted as in this or that way leading to fatality. How do we help our couples cope with that? Can we actually do it?
Do we even care, some may ask….
We do. Hence the more frequent ultrasounds, more tests for surrogate mothers, more calls and conversations, longer mails with detailed explanations, more internal consultations and double checking everything. Showing them the stability and certainty they don’t have, letting them see that we care, that they are not alone in this journey and that we all strive for happy ending.
It does not work for everyone, and sometimes this anxiety of a couple can only be relieved when they finally hold a baby in their arms. But in this post I want to thank to all the couples who have already gone through the surrogacy program with Successful Parents Agency and landed back home with a precious gift of life. You did it and it was your trust and persistence and irreversible hope that helped us all along the way.
Don’t be shy and pass it on.